It was just yesterday that amid our busy work schedule and project timelines, our team took some time off to get into a very insightful discussion....
It started with - "Is money (salary) more important or Job Satisfaction..."
Everyone jumped into the discussion in a split second saying JOB SATISFACTION....and one person stood there alone saying..."I work for my family...providing them more than enough money to live a satisfying life". We all knew that he also would choose Job Satisfaction over Money...but for the sake of getting a time off from work, we made it our prime motive to make him admit that Job Satisfaction is anyday more important than Money.
View, Opinion, Statements, Examples of exceptional cases, own life experiences filled the 1.5 hr long open air discussions...The small office cubical, with a seating capacity of 6, was now packed with all the colleagues that made up our office. Each had a strong passion to put his/her point forward and be heard...
Everytime an exceptional case was talked about, there were a few who would say - "Exceptions are always there, leave them aside...” but there were others who related to their own life experience or a similar thing they had seen / heard somewhere. But each branch of discussion ended with a sigh and a moment of silence where each took a moment off to sink the thought in or so to say Recharge themselves to go on and on another branch.
Voices rose (to get the point heard), opinions became statement & personal standings, examples became personal feeling....the discussion heated in no time....
As expected some people walked away since noone was seeing their point but retraced their steps back when they realised it was too late to turn away from it and not b a part of it anymore...the whole discussion had grown over them already....
And like always we had some exceptional people, who among all the noise, kept themselves glued to their desks and work on their projects. There was also some who kept walking into the discussion arena...hear thought...go for a stroll anc come back again. These people were mere spectators and didn’t participate.
The whole discussion ended with a big laff...but the heat didn’t die fast....
This was a friendly discussion which everyone welcomed with open arms and mind
Everything that was said wasn’t taken as a personal affront....colleagues still remained a team a united team :o)
For some people the discussion didn’t end there...especially for those who shared the cab to go back home. They continued talking on similar lines even on the way back. The 1 hr long journey didn’t seem that long yesterday.
I had a very funny experience of my own...In my cab we started talking of some technical doubt a colleague of mine had. We started with clearing it, explaining him concept and trying to resolve his doubt so he had a better understanding of the topic...Soon that technical discussion took a jump to attitude of famous / renowned people and before you knew the open forum topic of Money...Job Satisfaction...was back into discussion. I didn’t participate much in the discussion earlier so I started pouring out my thoughts and views about that topic. Before I knew I had added some of my personal life experiences to the discussion and talked endlessly until I had told it all out to my cab mates. hehehehe.
Best part was.....from our afternoon topic I had diversified it to Indian Government...How each one of us can contribute to it...and how I want to b a part of the ppl who want to contribute in development of my country. I am very passionate about being and INDIAN. And I had such a strong urge to tell all my thought to all that even after the cab stopped at my stop....I didnt open the door until I was finished telling everything.
It was nice to think of a million things other than work.....I really had thought that I was incapable of thinking of anything else other than my work related technical topics.
My thought, my knowledge has not become stagnant afterall :o)
And I am still a talker......Who just wants to be heard :o)
Thursday, March 30, 2006
Tuesday, March 21, 2006
Life is Beauty...
Life and its experiences are quite in insightful in themselves...
If we ever sat back and thought of all that is happening around us and all that we have done/ said.....we can sure learn from it….Else life just goes on and passes us by.
Impulsive...Arrogant....these two adjectives get added to us when we loose control of the situation and stop thinking...I read a forward sometime back and it made sense...It taught me how to not get attached to these two adjectives…which can ruin ones day...and sometimes a whole life....
I am sharing with that forward ...rather the principle to stay in control of ur life and all that's happening in it :o)
The 90/10 Principle
Author: Stephen Covey (Management Guru)
Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a15-minute delay and throwing Rs. 200/- traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a badday?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,"It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.
A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!!
If we ever sat back and thought of all that is happening around us and all that we have done/ said.....we can sure learn from it….Else life just goes on and passes us by.
Impulsive...Arrogant....these two adjectives get added to us when we loose control of the situation and stop thinking...I read a forward sometime back and it made sense...It taught me how to not get attached to these two adjectives…which can ruin ones day...and sometimes a whole life....
I am sharing with that forward ...rather the principle to stay in control of ur life and all that's happening in it :o)
The 90/10 Principle
Author: Stephen Covey (Management Guru)
Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a15-minute delay and throwing Rs. 200/- traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why?
Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a badday?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,"It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.
A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!!
Hey....
Its been forever that i have written my thots out in the blog.
"Ur blog has gone stale..." as a friend told me a couple of days back. Yeah I admit I didnt take time out to work on it but life was getting hectic by the day....
well me back now...so see u all more often.
Enjoy your reads hereon :o)
"Ur blog has gone stale..." as a friend told me a couple of days back. Yeah I admit I didnt take time out to work on it but life was getting hectic by the day....
well me back now...so see u all more often.
Enjoy your reads hereon :o)
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